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Well Well Well...

Well (Ba dum tss), it's time for the next chapter of Wyn and Co.'s Series of Unfortunate Events. I mentioned privately to friends last week our well broke. Yea so, IT'S SO MUCH WORSE than that. The well took some damage during Helene, but was city inspected, water tested, and cleared for use. It was working fine until...it wasn't. See we live on a mountain at like 3000 to 4000 feet and we aren't on the city's water system. We don't live in the flat town, we are nearly half an hour up a windy mountain road from town to get to our house. LITERALLY ON THE MOUNTAIN. The well is our water and plumbing source. Thursday, Jan 9, 2026 the water just quit working. It was really cold, so first thing we did was check for frozen pipes or maybe a frozen well. It was in the negatives, anything's possible. Cat takes a walk out to the wellhouse to check on the thing, and it's bad news. Well's broke. So she called a well company and they sent our an estimator to j...

How I broke My Arm

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  How I broke My Arm Ulnar and Radial ORIF: The Full Story (Feb 16) The world can feel like it’s trying to test you in very specific, small, ridiculous ways. I learned that on a hotel sidewalk. So I’m staying at a hotel at the time due to FEMA displacement. I am sitting in the accessible smoking area in my wheelchair. The sidewalk is elevated about six inches, maybe a foot, from the ground. There are two benches, bins, and not to mention ICE because it’s February in Appalachia so ICE is literally raining from the sky. The math was simple: Go from the place my wheelchair is parked near the door of the hotel (which is locked from the outside and my Partner has the key), to the ramp, down the ramp, and to the car when my partner pulls up. A sketch by Wyn of the Accident Location To my right, between me and the ramp, is a Dancing lady, who I will refer to as DL. She headphones in, and Spanish music blasting. Luckily I speak spanish, sorta. I did like 6 years of it, and c...

Family didn't come around.....In fact, it got worse.

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I posted the following wall of text to my facebook following an incident where my blood grandmother, whom is still following me and friends with me on facebook and has yet to block me despite hanging up on and disowning me, reshared a political post in favor of a candidate who would see much anti trans legislature passed. 

What a Shitty Situation

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  Gonna tattle tell on myself just so I can praise the fuck out of  C atherine, my fiance.  ------------------ Required Context: I have had SEVERE incontinence since July of 2023 due to a miscarriage we had. I spent months in adult diapers and living on puppy pads. Now I'm recovered enough to live day to day just using menstrual pads. But I still suffer with it. More required Context: Cat and I sleep....ahem. Natural. Birthday suit. You get the gist. (All you woo-y moms, don't come for us, Elena has her own bedroom we aren't dumb) ------------------ So. I wake up at 5am with a full bladder. And remember I use a CPAP for sleep apnea. So it's either A) hold it and sleep. B) take off the mask and go to the restroom or C) be a lazy sleep zombie and disconnect the CPAP hose and groan your way to the restroom looking like bane and Darth vaders love child. Obviously I picked C. I do my business and clean myself after peeing only to realize.....there is dried...ahem....feces on...

Why?

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  Glossary: AFAB:  assigned female at birth Enby:  a term used by some nonbinary people as a shortened form of nonbinary; a less formal way to express gender. Transition:  the process through which a trans person or gender expansive person transitions to match their gender. Packer:  A transition item that is basically a prosthetic penis, but can very in function from purely aesthetic to fully functional depending on price and quality. Masc/Femme:  Masculine/Feminine — — —  Why? Why HRT/GAC? Why not therapy? Why not God? Why would you mutilate yourself? — — —       When I initially came out as nonbinary and trans, I was in a very abusive DV situation and was unable to fully and safely explore my gender expression and gender fluidity. Specifically I had to suppress my masc side, to the point of convincing myself I didn't even have one. It took a lot of therapy and healing to finally start to allow this portion of my identity to c...

Transgender Awareness Week!

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  This week is Transgender Awareness Week! Transgender Awareness Week is a week when transgender people and their allies take action to bring attention to the trans community by educating the public about who transgender people are, sharing stories and experiences, and advancing advocacy around issues of prejudice, discrimination, and violence that affect the transgender community. It takes place the week before the International Transgender Day of Remembrance, which takes place on November 20th of each year. You can participate in TDOR by attending or organizing a vigil on November 20 to honor all those whose lives were lost to anti-transgender violence that year. We are Trans. And we are visible for those who can't be. --------------------------- Sources https://glaad.org/transweek/

The hard parts of Transition.

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TW/CW: Familial Transphobia Sigh. My turn to take to the internet for a venty transphobic family rant.  I feel like I tried. I feel like I really and truly tried but my hands feel tied and it sucks.  When I came out as trans/nonbinary/genderfluid, I was one of the lucky few where most of my family was super supportive. I didn’t lose anyone, my mom bought me a flag, my brother came out as trans, even my niece and nephew have been brave enough to come out as queer. My mom just recently came out as aro/ace spec! So really I am SURROUNDED by positivity and support.  So why does it hurt so bad to have that one family member that just can’t get on board?  It’s been a running issue in my family since we all came out over the past few years that my Grandmother, my mothers Mother, cannot accept or respect our identities. My brother walked out one Christmas, cut off contact with her, and never looked back. He’s tried to reconcile but holds firm to his boundaries and I am so pr...